One huge turn off for guys is being way too nice. Everyone knows that no one is that nice. You shouldn’t be either. You need to learn how to be on the nice side, but not too nice. Certain things start to happen to you if you’re way too nice.
Problems with being too nice:
People think your stupid (literally!)
Other people tend to consider you annoying
The level of trust you’ll receive from others will decrease
You’ll lose confidence
It’s too hard to act fakeall the time!
Real Life Example Time!
I was surfing the internet (close to real life as you can get!) to try to get a review on this gym I was thinking about joining. I checked yelp, and there were zero reviews for this place. I came across this website called thedanburyreview.com, and they had tons of reviews. You could tell that there were a bunch of blogs, but not like a ton of blogs. Whoever made that website has already started getting organic traffic from the internet. People really liked his reviews, because he or she would tell about the business, quote them, and then add a little witty blurb at the end.
Just think about it for a moment before you start being too nice. The following statements may seem like stereotypes, but they are considered true, or at least recognizable for a reason.
Do you Agree with these Statements?
Girls always fall in love with the biggest asshole guys
Bullies are always the cool kids in school
The News focuses 90% of its attention on to horrible things happening in this world
The most popular movie characters aren’t always that nice!
The key to being liked in the workplace is not being yourself. I’m sure you’d love it if everyone would just appreciate you for who you are, but that is not going to happen. So, with that being said you must be someone else. There are certain qualities of likable people. You should take this list to heart, much like my other key posts: Looking Approachable, Making the Right Moves, and Sex Sells.
The Qualities of Likable People:
Very Clean and Tidy
Touchy (use this to your advantage ladies!)
Says Hi everyday
Ladies, get your shit together and be that stuck up fake cheerleader that you knew in high school. Except, fake it… BETTER.
Get your office, apartment, and personal life clean. Personally, I hire a professional carpet cleaner often to clean my carpets. My guy lives in Stamford, and does a really good job.
Short one for today Ladies, but its not rocket science… so get it done!
Most women suffer from what is called “resting bitch face” in which we look really bitchy or upset when we’re not. On the contrary to what most people think – not all women are bitches. As women, we need to aware of how we’re coming off. In a video by college humor called bitchy resting face they describe exactly what some women go through on a daily basis.
Look at the picture to your left. If this reminds you of yourself than you’ll definitely need to do some smile practice. You may think “oh great, smile practice is exactly what I need,” but that’s the honest truth. Until you start to look more approachable you’ll come off as a bitch.
Coming off as a bitch in the business world is not a great way to do business. People buy with emotion, and if they’re turned off by your resting bitch face than your business is going to suffer. If your business suffers than your career is going to suffer, and that $120,000 you spent on that fancy education will be for nothing!
You have to turn around, and practice looking happy. Get your smile practice done ladies! You can tell by reading my about page that I want nothing to do with smile practice, but I’ll grit my teeth and man up if there is something that I want bad enough at the end of the road.
Recognize that Resting Bitch Face
Ladies – Sex Sells, but it can’t sell if you don’t have any customers!
Another great video outline this problem is from Buzzfeed:
Making the right moves is very important, and I’m not talking about sexual practices here. I’m rather speaking about how you must pick the right person. Climbing the corporate ladder isn’t easy, but by using your sex appeal correctly you can definitely get to where you need to be. You first need to focus on what you want.
Do you want to be at the top of a corporate ladder?
Instead, do you want to have a loyal lover with some money?
Sometimes, the loyal lover with some money comes into play. I had been watching the owner of a Tree Service put up posts on his Danbury Tree Service Pinterest and I thought, wouldn’t he make a great husband? Clearly, anyone who works outside all day is in great shape. He’s got to be smart if he’s able to cut down a tree, and he’s probably rolling in the dough. Last time I had a tree cut down in my yard is costed me $1100, and took 3 guys, 2 hours to do. That’s a 6 hour job at over $200 an hour. $200 an hour is what lawyers charge! I wouldn’t mind having a lawyer lover.
Make your own Choices
Its not always about what you your parents wanted for you; whether they brought you up to be a success or just to enjoy life. Making your own choices is about you, because dreading a decision for the rest of your life isn’t worth it. So you’ll have to sit down, and make a real decision. I always get some really good wine, and drink till I’m honest. Sometimes after a few bottles of wine you’re as honest as you can possibly be.
Once your decision is made then you need to follow through, and I’ll show exactly how to follow through in later posts. I’m very honest with myself, and I know I love the thrill of manipulating, cheating, and getting myself in dangerous situations. I crave that rush, and love every bit of it. I know it’ll have some negative effects on me later in life, but I also know it’ll make some damn good “by the fire” stories. I’ll be the kind of grandma that you don’t want your kids talking to!
There’s nothing wrong with getting up in the corporate ladder by using what your mother gave you. Getting kinky is very important if you’re planning to use your relationship to move you into a better position at work. People don’t talk about getting kinky in public do they… Of course not!
No one talks about their kinkiness in public, except maybe at some college frat party. People are naturally embarrassed about how kinky they like to get. So ladies, when your with a guy, and especially if he’s a superior make sure to get kinky quick. Do some stuff that you wouldn’t normally do.
Why? Because of two reasons:
He’ll probably like your kinky moves such as a finger in the ass, or some spanking.
Now you have some dirt on him personally.
He Likes It
Chances are if you lick his asshole out he might like it. He honestly might enjoy it so much he gets used to having it, and we all know he can’t get that service anywhere else. A quick fuck, or blow job is something that he can get from the secretary anytime. Now you have serious value to him. After exposing someone’s kinky side you’ll notice they start to have a special bond with you. I remember the first time I tried something new with my college boyfriend. I was giving him a blow job, and I stuck my finger right up his ass. He was alarmed, pulled away, but I started pressing my finger on his prostate and going deeper onto his cock.
He loved it, and I got myself a new diamond necklace the next weekend. He also stopped bragging to his friends about our sex life, and that brings me to my next point…
You’ve got some DIRT
Imagine your boss who loves to get spanked trying to demote you. Just mention that he probably wouldn’t want the fact that he likes to get spanked in bed going around the office, would he? I’m sure he wouldn’t like that rumor spreading one bit. Especially if one day you hid a video camera in the back of your apartment while the whole ordeal happened. Know I’m sure you can see why getting kinky, and documenting it is very helpful.